Classics of the Fatherhood Movement. Divorced Dads: Shattering the Myths by Sanford Braver
To mark the 50th anniversary of the Australian Family Law Act in 2025 A Sense of Place Magazine is running this series Classics of the Fatherhood Movement.
Also, keep an eye out for the upcoming book from A Sense of Place Publishing, Failure: Family Law Reform Australia by veteran journalist John Stapleton.
“Divorced Dads: Shattering the Myths” by Sanford Braver is a seminal work that challenges many widely held beliefs about fathers post-divorce. Braver, a professor of psychology, embarked on this study with the aim of debunking myths through empirical research rather than relying on anecdotal evidence or popular opinion.
Overview of the Book:
The book begins by outlining the common stereotypes about divorced fathers: that they are often deadbeats who avoid child support payments and shirk their responsibilities. Braver’s research, however, paints a very different picture. He argues that these stereotypes are not only largely inaccurate but also harmful to fathers, children, and society at large.
Key Findings:
Child Support: One of the myths Braver tackles head-on is that most non-custodial fathers do not pay child support. His research shows that while there is a significant problem with non-payment, it’s not as widespread as believed. Many fathers who are behind on payments are not willfully avoiding them; systemic issues like unemployment or the inability to modify child support orders when circumstances change play a major role.
Quote: “The stereotype of the deadbeat dad is not only wrong, but it’s damaging to fathers who want to be in their children’s lives but are hindered by a system that doesn’t always work as intended.”Custody Arrangements: Braver discusses how custody laws often favor mothers, leading to a situation where fathers have limited access to their children. He advocates for joint custody, arguing that children benefit when both parents remain actively involved in their lives.
Quote: “Our research shows that when fathers are given the chance to be involved parents post-divorce, both they and their children thrive. The presumption should be towards shared parenting, not exclusive maternal custody.”Fathers’ Involvement: Braver challenges the notion that fathers naturally disengage from their children’s lives post-divorce. He found that many fathers are eager to maintain a relationship with their children but are often thwarted by legal, emotional, or logistical barriers.
Impact on Children: The book delves into how children perceive their fathers post-divorce. Braver’s findings suggest that children often view their fathers more positively than the mothers do, indicating a disconnect between parental perceptions and children’s experiences.
Policy and Legal Recommendations: Braver doesn’t just critique; he offers solutions. He suggests reforms in child support enforcement, emphasis on joint custody, and better mediation processes to ensure that both parents remain engaged in their children’s lives.
Quotes from the Author
“The legal system can and should do more to facilitate, rather than hinder, the continued involvement of fathers after divorce.”
“We need to move away from adversarial models of divorce towards ones that promote cooperation and shared responsibilities for the sake of the children.”
Complimentary Reviews:
“Divorced Dads: Shattering the Myths” is a crucial read for anyone involved in family law, social policy, or simply anyone who cares about the welfare of children in post-divorce families. Sanford Braver’s meticulous research not only debunks pervasive myths but also provides a roadmap for a more equitable and child-centric approach to divorce.” – Dr. Elizabeth Peters, Professor of Economics and Sociology
“A groundbreaking work that challenges the status quo. Braver’s evidence-driven approach exposes the biases in our current system and offers practical, humane solutions. This book should be required reading for legislators, judges, and all those advocating for family wellness.” – David Blankenhorn, Founder of the Institute for American Values
Conclusion
“Divorced Dads: Shattering the Myths” is not just a critique of current practices but a call to action for a more balanced, empathetic, and scientifically informed approach to divorce and custody. Braver’s work encourages a reevaluation of how society views and treats divorced fathers, advocating for policies that support the well-being of children by fostering meaningful relationships with both parents. This book remains a pivotal text in the discourse on family dynamics post-divorce, offering both a scholarly examination and a compassionate plea for change.
CLASSICS OF THE FATHERHOOD MOVEMENT
CLICK ON THE IMAGE BELOW TO SEE THE SERIES SO FAR
OUT SOON
MARKING THE 50TH ANNIVERSARY OF THE AUSTRALIAN FAMILY LAW ACT
